As a college student whose boyfriend lives 3000 miles away from her during summer and winter break, I would love to share my tips on how to strive in a long distance relationship. First, however, I would like to begin with a disclaimer. Only relationships wherein partners are 100% committed to each other will survive. There is no point in sticking it out with someone if he or she is not your absolute honey. Please remember this: not every guy you meet is your soulmate! If you want to be in a healthy, monogamous relationship, make sure you’re doing so with the right guy for you.
That being said, here are a few tips to spice up your long distance relationship.
- Skype. If you don’t know about Skype, please please please Google it. It is the next best thing to talking to someone face to face, and it is free. Simply “call” him or her and you can see his gorgeous face or hear her lovely voice. I’ve heard some scoff at the idea of Skyping a lover, but it’s the perfect remedy if you’re tired of texting and talking on the phone (i.e. “my girlfriend is a phone”). Set a time, grab a snack, and pretend it’s a first date! A little spontaneity never killed anyone, and who knows, you might begin to look forward to seeing your lover’s face every evening!
- Phone calls. If your internet connection is down, or Skype isn’t the thing for you, a good old-fashioned phone call will do the trick. Texting is fine, but in my opinion, phone calls are more personal, and they also shows that you’re making an effort to hear the other’s voice. My boyfriend calls me every so often to let me know about his day, and the cute kids he works with! Plus, just seeing your lover’s name on the phone just makes your day.
- Letters. Who doesn’t like receiving mail? Seeing in the mailbox a cute envelope addressed to “Honeybun,” with the return address as “Yours Truly” can really brighten your day, and even your week! Find a stationary large enough to write how much you miss his laughter, the freckles on his shoulder, his jokes, and his body (especially this last one, everyone loves a compliment, and men especially love being crooned!) Sign with a flirty signature and a “P.S. See you in my dreams” to remind him or her that while you may be far apart, you still think about them all the time and are still madly, deeply in love with them.
- Affirmations. This is a big one. If you only have time to talk to your partner once or twice a week, this is actually essential. Make a time every week – write a Post-It note if you think you might forget – to tell your lover three things you love about him. (Don’t say “miss” because that will remind him that you are far away.) He will be so flattered that he will compliment you right back! These affirmations affirm that there is still romance in the relationship, that you two are still peas in a pod, and that distance can’t tamper with your relationship. You two are strong, unbeatable, and head over heels about each other! Don’t forget to tell your honey that every chance you get.
I hope this was helpful to everyone wondering how to survive in a long distance relationship. I know it sounds daunting at first, but with an optimistic mindset, open-mindedness, and absolute trust, anyone can survive!
What do you do to strive in a long distance relationship? Comment here!